What does Dan Savage – LGBT activist and co-founder of the It Gets Better movement – think about LGBT affirming churches? See for yourself…
What does Dan Savage – LGBT activist and co-founder of the It Gets Better movement – think about LGBT affirming churches? See for yourself…
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I just walked into the office after a great program with a group of LGBT and allied kids at a local high school.
I took a guest with me, one of my org’s more dedicated volunteers. After the program, G. (the volunteer) and I walked across the street to get a cup of coffee and debrief our disbelief. Our program today was about LGBT history. G. and I were shocked at how little the kids knew about LGBT history. How is it that a group of gay kids in NYC – where it’s relatively safe to be a gay kid – had never heard of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell and seemed only somewhat aware that LGBT folks in New York State were given the right to marry less than a year ago? *sigh* How does that happen?
Regardless…
My conversation with G. quickly evolved into one about a different kind of history. At G.’s prompting, we started talking about religion. G., who was raised an orthodox Jew, waxed eloquently and intelligently about how religion (both Jewish and Christian) has shaped gay life in the 21st century.
He said, “I think most people need to be reminded that religion is completely personal. People need to be given the power to figure out the Bible, or Qur’an, or whatever, for themselves and say f’you to any church, synagogue, mosque, or religious zealot that tries to invade their personal belief system. Religion is personal and it’s private.”
G.’s a smart man. There’s a lot to unpack in his thought.
I agree that people need to be given the power to figure out their holy books, their faith, and their theology so that they can stand confidently when religious people say unholy and hurtful things to them. But…
It’s pretty important that we remember Christianity is not completely personal. Christianity (and its grandfather, Judaism) isn’t an idea that people enjoy in isolation. Nope… Christianity isn’t personal. It’s communal, all wrapped up in relationships. It always has been.
Jesus drew disciples together into a community that followed him up mountainsides to pray together, across seas to minister together, and into upper rooms to eat together. The Holy Spirit draws believers together into the Church, a community of believers. Paul tells us that this church is the body of Christ – a strange Frankenstein creature with many parts that all (ideally) work together to show God’s illogical love to the world.
You and I may each have deeply personal relationships with our faith, but these relationships are meant to draw us together into what Christ called the Kingdom of God… a community.
And that may explain why churches have such tremendous power to hurt gay people. If our faith were only personal – ideas we enjoy in the privacy of our own soul – we might be able to cope with church-thrown nastiness by saying “I guess they don’t understand how my idea fits into their idea. Oh, well.”
But since Christianity is communal, the game changes. The church’s nastiness forces us to say, “They don’t want me to be a part of their community. They don’t think I fit into the Kingdom of God. They don’t want me to be part of our family anymore.”
And that hurts.
So, dear LGBT friends, let me remind you that “they” are wrong. You do fit in the Kingdom. You are a part of the family. Consider what the Apostle John said about Jesus (who, like many of us, was also rejected by his religious community for believing that outcasts should be loved rather than judged)…
He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him. He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him. Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God…
He gave us all the right to be part of the family. Anybody who tells you differently is wrong.
Also, please keep in mind a valuable lesson we all should have learned in high school: just because one group of mean kids won’t let you eat lunch with them doesn’t mean the band kids, drama kids, chess kids, golf kids, or whatever kids won’t let you sit at their table.
If a church has been hateful to you because you’re LGBTQ, click here to find another one who really wants someone just like you to love God alongside them.
Filed under Bible, Church, Conversation, Devotions, Encouragement, Opinions
I both love it and hate it when I read someone else’s words and think, “*sigh*… I wish I had written that.”
The blog post I just read filled me with both jealousy and delight. Delight because the writer said what I feel, and jealously because… the writer said what I feel.
As I work (with increasing excitement) through my own issues of “calling,” this post was exactly what I needed this morning. I think we all need to be reminded that as LGBT Christians we have a responsibility – a calling – to minister to the wounded. Just because we’ve been hurt doesn’t mean we shouldn’t also be healers. After all, who better than us to spread the good news of a Savior who said, “blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.”
For ours is the Kingdom of Heaven, too…
All too often, we are wounded. We are hurting. Quite frankly, some of us have been so heavily wounded by the Church that we’re barely functioning. The bitterness, anger, resentment, and dejection that we feel toward other Christians is enough to poison our spirit…
That doesn’t mean we have to stay in sour relationships. It doesn’t mean we have to poison our spirit by sitting under ministries that pour bile out with every sermon.
Find the safe places. Find a place to heal. To be Christian. Where there is no expectation of “praying the gay away.” Where we can be whole. Where we can be nurtured and to be fully healed…. not so that we can rest, but so that we can carry the torch of the living risen Lord and Savior to those who truly, desperately need to know that someone genuinely cares.
We have a responsibility — if we are Christian, to BE Christian. Live with integrity. Form healthy relationships, shun promiscuity, and truly follow Christ.
We who have been wounded in the past have the calling — a responsibility even — to find those who have also been wounded and minister healing. We’ll have to continue to dodge those jagged, venomous arrows from both sides — a no man’s land where countless people are only hoping to survive.
We must find the wounded and care for them.
We must find the bullied and help them to stand firm and be proud of who they are.
We must find the tormented and help them find healing.
We must find those in despair and help them find hope.
Filed under Church, Devotions, Encouragement, Partners, Supporters & Allies, Uncategorized
I know, I know. I haven’t posted anything if forever. I’m sorry. I was being so faithful. Then I fell off the face of the earth. Ah, life! Why must you take so much time?
During this season of political sound bites, I offer you this gem from Mother Theresa. It reminds me that “right” and “wrong” are seldom the most important issues…
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” (-Mother Theresa)
Pass it on.
Filed under Devotions, Encouragement, Opinions, Role Models, Supporters & Allies
Anne Lamott – an author I really enjoy – once said, “You can safely assume you’ve created God in your own image when it turns out that God hates all the same people you do.”
Can I get an amen?
Filed under Conversation, Encouragement, Role Models, Supporters & Allies