Gay Christians Have A Calling

I both love it and hate it when I read someone else’s words and think, “*sigh*… I wish I had written that.”

The blog post I just read filled me with both jealousy and delight.  Delight because the writer said what I feel, and jealously because… the writer said what I feel.

As I work (with increasing excitement) through my own issues of “calling,” this post was exactly what I needed this morning.  I think we all need to be reminded that as LGBT Christians we have a responsibility – a calling – to minister to the wounded.  Just because we’ve been hurt doesn’t mean we shouldn’t also be healers.  After all, who better than us to spread the good news of a Savior who said, “blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.”

For ours is the Kingdom of Heaven, too…

All too often, we are wounded. We are hurting. Quite frankly, some of us have been so heavily wounded by the Church that we’re barely functioning. The bitterness, anger, resentment, and dejection that we feel toward other Christians is enough to poison our spirit…

That doesn’t mean we have to stay in sour relationships. It doesn’t mean we have to poison our spirit by sitting under ministries that pour bile out with every sermon.

Find the safe places. Find a place to heal. To be Christian. Where there is no expectation of “praying the gay away.” Where we can be whole. Where we can be nurtured and to be fully healed…. not so that we can rest, but so that we can carry the torch of the living risen Lord and Savior to those who truly, desperately need to know that someone genuinely cares.

We have a responsibility — if we are Christian, to BE Christian. Live with integrity. Form healthy relationships, shun promiscuity, and truly follow Christ.

We who have been wounded in the past have the calling — a responsibility even — to find those who have also been wounded and minister healing. We’ll have to continue to dodge those jagged, venomous arrows from both sides — a no man’s land where countless people are only hoping to survive.

We must find the wounded and care for them.

We must find the bullied and help them to stand firm and be proud of who they are.

We must find the tormented and help them find healing.

We must find those in despair and help them find hope.

Read David Shelton’s full blog here.



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4 responses to “Gay Christians Have A Calling

  1. Gotta be honest…. I struggle with this. I have a lot of resentment when it comes to the Church. It’s hard for me to be interested or drawn to ministry any longer. But…. I can’t deny the feelings/sense of call I have when I am present in worship. It usually hits me at the beginning of communion, during the invitation to the table. My eyes well up with tears. Every time.

    And sometimes it hits me in the most unexpected moments…. On a whim I purchased the new Christy Nockels album. This was the first “Christian music” I’ve purchased in years (maybe 7?). There I was, driving down the road and crying as I listened to some of the lyrics. (let me qualify this with the fact that I’m not a huge crier!) However, I can’t deny my spiritual heritage. There is something in my DNA. Something in the very fiber of my being. Something that resonates deep within me and causes a guttural and raw response of which I honestly have no control. But how do I reconcile this sense of call with my feelings toward the Church? It’s been difficult. It IS difficult. I don’t have answers.

    • Bryan

      C –

      I think I understand your feelings when you are called to the table for communion. There’s something about being told “this is my body broken for you” that is spellbindingly beautiful – even more so when we consider that “you” is plural. My body broken for you… all of you… each of you who choose to follow. All.

      His body was broken not only for me, but for us. All of us. It’s devastating.

      That’s part of how/why I still minister. I need people – especially “our people” – to know that God is in love with us. I want my voice to be one of the ones calling them to the table.

      I understand, however, that for many people, walking into church doesn’t give a sense of peace, love, justice and communion with Christ. Instead, it makes them feel more like they’ve walked into the bedroom of a parent who abused them as a child. It’s supposed to be safe, but it’s not. It’s supposed to represent love, but it doesn’t.

      That’s why I remind myself that we don’t call people to the church. We call them to the Christ.

      In my life, I’ve felt the presence of God most fully when I’ve been sharing God with someone else – not necessarily through preaching, etc., but simply by trying to be an agent of love/God/grace to someone else. Can’t we do that while we’re still wounded? Can’t we still do that in the midst of our hurt? Can’t we still be a link that draws people into communion with God? Not out of a place of spiritual strength (as many of us once tried to do), but out of a more honest place – one of weakness, brokenness, humility, woundedness, and questioning.

      After all, Paul is compelling with his confident proclamations of faith. But so is the Centurion who looked at Christ and said, “yes, I believe…. but help me in my disbelief.”

      C, I don’t have answers, either… but I echo your feelings of “raw calling.” It’s something that lives in a deep place you can’t deny. Keep in mind that your sexuality didn’t enjoy living in the closet. Your calling doesn’t either…

  2. Cheryl Glenn

    The comment above is from me…. Apparently it thinks that my email address is associated with my partner! Oy….

  3. Pingback: Don’t Give Up On Christian Gays | Stillforus

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