Dear Facebook… I’m Gay.

I know I often sound like a broken record, saying things I’ve said dozens of times before.  (fyi – I also know the “broken record” simile is totally 1972 and doesn’t work anymore, but I can’t think of an mp3 equivalent.  I would welcome suggestions…)

Regardless – I believe it’s important for us to share our stories.  They show us that our ideas aren’t weird and that we’re not the only ones who have felt/thought/believed something.

A good friend of mine – the talented artist who designed the “Stillforus” header you see above – recently came out to her dad.  It was a pretty gutsy move and she’s currently navigating the aftermath.

Three days after she told her dad, my friend posted the following status update on Facebook.  It’s brilliant.  When you read her “things I have believed in chronological order” list, I think you’ll find yourself nodding your head and sympathetically  mumbling “mmmmhhmmmm” a lot.  Enjoy.

(If you’d like to send my friend an encouraging thought to help her through a pretty sh!tt% time, feel free to post it in the comments.  I’ll be sure she gets your note…)

Dear Facebook, 

I finally told my dad, so now I can tell you what some of you know and what most of you don’t care, and that is that I’m gay. Things I have believed in chronological order:

  1. Gay people go to hell.
  2. Gay people don’t really exist–they’re just behaving gay.
  3. Gay can be fixed and changed through prayer and hard work.
  4. You can adopt traits of your own sex and learn to be more of a girl.
  5. This will bring forth a man.
  6. Homosexuality is the same as being predisposed to alcoholism.
  7. God loves all of us.
  8. God made us exactly as he wanted us to be.
  9. The Bible shouldn’t be read literally.
  10. The idea of God becomes bigger when you don’t read the Bible literally.
  11. I don’t believe in God.
  12. I don’t believe in the Bible.
  13. I’m too old for this crap.
  14. I’m tired of hearing about kids dying or getting picked on for being gay.
  15. I’m tired of hearing people called fags or dykes.
  16. I’m tired of feeling at home in Brooklyn because it seems to be the only place that feels safe.
  17. God doesn’t exist.
  18. Love the sinner, hate the sin isn’t actually love at all.
  19. I am gay
  20. It’s the only thing that has ever made sense to me.
  21. I lost my ability to pray.
  22. I’m studying the Bible.
  23. I’ve placed membership at a church that has a little bit of everybody.
  24. Sometimes I can see God.
  25. God is patient and hangs out anyway, even if you can’t always believe in him.
  26. I only want people in my life who are good and who will make me a better person.
  27. I’m gay.
  28. It wasn’t an accident.
  29. It’s not a sin.

I’ve lived in many places and met all of you somewhere along the way. A lot of you I know from home and from college. Those, I imagine, are the people who will have the hardest time with this news.

I come out for the kids who haven’t or can’t or don’t yet know why they’re so different. To them I say that you are loved and you are perfect.

If you find yourself so repulsed by this news, please unfriend me. If you feel God has put it on your heart to talk to me about my sin, he has not, and you should also probably unfriend me.

I am the same person today, as I was yesterday–only with a longer status update.

If you are shocked or surprised by this news, please do come forward as I have a trophy to give to the only person who didn’t know.

-S.

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5 responses to “Dear Facebook… I’m Gay.

  1. Nothing Nice, Nothing Sweet!

    Perfectly wonderful!

  2. Nothing Nice, Nothing Sweet!

    Did anyone come forward for the trophy?

  3. Jeanne

    S- You are wonderfully made, just as you are. Thank you for sharing your journey.

  4. You are a blessing to us and a miracle of experience, strength and hope. Someone out there needed you as a witness. We are all “wonderfully made” in God’s image and as it says in the book Alcoholics Anonymous-nothing happens in God’s world by mistake.

  5. I wanted to let you know that my Pastor and I were talking about you today. Not you personally, but gays living in a Christian world. I, as you see by my moniker, am not even a full blown Christian. I am however, a full blown straight. (not that there’s anything wrong with that) My pastor and I do a Tuesday night thing where we talk about problems that I have with the Old and New Testament and problems that I have in the modern day, one main problem being the way so called Christians judge homosexuals. I believe people are born gay which of course goes against everything the church teaches and believes. But I’m really not trying to change their beliefs about being gay, just how they should treat gay people and everyone…like Jesus taught, with love. I just wanted to commend you on your bravery and let you know there are actually other people outside the gay and lesbian community that believe in your right to be you and not be judged for it. And I am 100% on your side against bullying of anybody. It needs to end now and it starts with you and me today. Thank you for your honesty and may you find true happiness by just being yourself.

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