A Letter to Parents of LGBT Youth… It MUST get better.

Even though Jamey Rodemeyer found the courage to make an “It Gets Better” video encouraging his LGBT peers to “hold their heads up,” things didn’t get better.  Last week Jamey committed suicide.

Our friend Kathy Verebiest of Canyonewalker Connections said this about Jamey’s video (which you can watch below):

…too bad he was not saying “I am getting so much support from my youth leaders at church who just love me” …where are the positive role models of healthy living for our gay youth in churches? I MUST get better. It MUST. And now he is dead.

Jamey’s parents chose to bury their gay son in his favorite outfit – including a t-shirt printed with the Lady Gaga mantra “Born This Way.”


Jamey was lucky to have parents who accepted and supported their gay son.  Not all LGBT youth are this fortunate.  It sometimes takes moms and dads a while to understand what it means to have a lesbian, gay, bisexual, or tansgender child.

Kathy Verebiest – one of our straight allies – has written a powerful letter to the parents of Christian LGBT youth.  If you know a kid who’s struggling to survive because his parents are struggling to understand… send them this letter. Our kids need all the support they can get.



Filed under Encouragement, Partners, Role Models, Supporters & Allies

2 responses to “A Letter to Parents of LGBT Youth… It MUST get better.

  1. Pingback: Church’s Response to LGBT Youth Suicide | Stillforus

  2. Queer Kid's Mom

    It is heartbreaking to think that his parents love and support was not enough to tip the scales. Perhaps, besides actively working to change our society, it isn’t enough for parents to say “son, I will love you regardless of who you love.” Perhaps as parents we have to do more, earlier, to build structures of protection and strength into the worlds we inhabit with our children.

    You are right: It MUST get better.

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